ROAD RAGE!! It can turn the kindest person into the most evil human being on earth!
Road Rage by definition is the informal name for deliberately dangerous and/or violent behavior under the influence of heightened, violent emotion such as anger and frustration, involving an automobile in use.
I believe all of us at some point have suffered from this irregular behavior. Its something about receiving the middle finger from someone who in your mind, you know wouldn’t stand a chance against you in a fight that sets us off!! I mean we get MAD!
I’m talking about the most innocent, “Steve Urkel” type, in a moment, in a twinkling of an eye becomes a character from New Jack City, or Boyz in the Hood! Its astonishing, and DANGEROUS at the same time.
I must admit, I am a recovering road rager. If there were 4 stages to road rage, I was most definitely a 3. I had to face my problem when a few years ago while rushing to work, I cut in front of another driver without using my signal. Now usually when I’m the driver in the wrong, I’m able to see the driver speed up to my vehicle in my rear view mirror, and I would ignore them to keep from having a confrontation because I was the one who committed the moving violation.
On this particular occasion for some reason, I decided to glance over at the driver when he approached my vehicle. It was as if God hit the “slow motion” button in time, and although I couldn’t hear the man, I saw every syllable ooze with anger from his mouth, “N I G G E R”!!!! After he uttered that word along with some other words I care not to mention, he sped off in a hurry, as if he was satisfied and the mission was accomplished.
Now when I say “I lost it”,, that’s an understatement, I literally SNAPPED! I instantly started to chase him on the highway, reaching speeds that if something had gone wrong, could have killed me, along with other drivers on the road. Every time I got close to him, he would try to speed off, it just so happened that we ran into construction on the highway, and he couldn’t exit off when he tried to!
As traffic slowed down, I positioned myself very close behind him, waiting for an opportunity for both vehicles to stop long enough so I could get out and bust a window or something, I wanted to hurt him in someway! Thankfully, the opportunity never presented itself. Traffic was moving, but at a very slow pace.
In a moment of PURE IGNORANCE, I pulled on the side of this person, (who at this time just knew he was about die! I mean the man was sweating bullets, scared out of his mind) I slowed down so that we were right next to each other, I formed my hand to the shape of a gun, and without saying a word, I put the meanest, most thuggish look I could muster up on my face, and I pointed at him. He looked back at me and he threw his hands up and I read his lips as he uttered the words, “I’m so sorry” over and over again.
To my amazement, I didn’t feel victorious. I actually felt like I lost. I lost the battle to not give into ignorance. I realized with my actions, I stooped to an even lower level of ignorance. I was deeply embarrassed.
I felt like I reached down and pulled out that ignorant child I once was, and put the man I was striving to be on the back burner. The “what ifs” really ate me up.
“What if he, was just as crazy, and pulled out a real gun and shot me!”
“What if while chasing this man, I had a car accident that killed innocent people!”
“What if I had to explain to my children, the reason daddy is going to jail, is because I acted like a fool one day when my pride was challenged”
I’m happy to say, that incident caused me to realize this was a real issue that I had to get control of before I ran up on the wrong man or woman!
Yes I still get upset behind the wheel from time to time, but I’ve learned that some things just aint worth it! Here’s a few tips from rimpology101 if you have issues or know someone who suffers from Road Rage:
1. Get some sleep! Not getting enough rest can definitely play apart in road rage! When this happens we are easily irritated. 8 hours for adults is still whats recommended.
2. Your car is not a therapist! Most of us like to blow off steam by taking a ride. BAD IDEA! Try walking, or doing something that exerts energy!
3. Turn down the Base in the music! You can’t be bumping to Lil John’s “Throw yo Hood up” and expect to be cool when somebody says something out of line to you. The music will make a difference! 🙂
4. Loosen up, and breathe! Literally taking a deep breath can help, just try it.
5. Lastly, be an adult about the situation. I know that “being the bigger person” is so cliché, however in cases of road rage, I believe its worth it!
Its rimpology101.com! Love to think out LOUD all day long! I want to hear from YOU! Tell me about how you overcame your road rage! You might help somebody, you never know.. Peace