MONEY is commonly “misquoted” as being “the root of all evil!” HOWEVER, it is the “LOVE” of money that gets us in a world of trouble! Divorce in our country is at an all time high, and if you had one guess, what do you think the number one cause of Divorce is today? Yep, you guessed right! MONEY!! Financial stress is the number one killer of marriages!
I personally believe the traditional wedding vows should be changed to sound more like this:
I, Rimpology, take thee, Mrs. Rimpology, to be my lawful wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, OR WHENEVER YOU ASK ME HOW MUCH MONEY I HAVE IN MY PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT! CUZ WHATS MINE IS MINE AND WHATS YOURS IS YOURS!
Really that’s what some of us are doing, we are trying to become “ONE” in everything else but our finances!! For the first 3yrs (My wife would say 5 or 6) of my marriage, I was totally selfish! I can admit that now. I was under the misguided impression that because “I AM THE MAN” I had to control “MY” finances! I look back at my life then and the majority of our arguments were over how I handled “MY” money!
Through prayer, wise counsel, and much patience given me by Mrs. Rimpology, I saw the error of my ways! If we were to attain the true ONENESS that life partners are to have, I knew I would have to tear down this barrier I’d built up of secrecy, and selective exposure of what is now “OUR” money, and no longer just “my” money!
Today, I can now look at what we went through, and diagnose the problem with two FATAL words in reference to marriage,, NO COMMUNICATION! When you enter a union with financial “secrets,” oneness with your spouse can never be accomplished! Many couples today boast about having separate bank accounts, and successful relationships embracing the “whats mine is mine, and what yours is yours” way of thinking. Is that really even possible??
It’s quite funny to me that most people are more comfortable sitting around the dinner table and talking about their sex lives before they’re comfortable talking about money. It is my personal belief that separate bank accounts can be a good thing for relationships ONLY if it is accompanied by proper and full communication! Look, I totally understand that managing your own bank account is empowering, and a life skill that nobody should be deprived of. It brings personal accountability, budgeting, and a sense of financial pride to the owner of the account, no matter what the balance is. Even slowly digging your way out of debt is something to be proud of if you can say you did it on your own. I can literally talk about this forever. But, I want to hear from YOU!!
If you agree with having separate accounts, what are some of the pro’s you’ve experienced in doing so? What are some of the cons?
Perhaps you agree that it should only be one pot, and that we share everything! What are the pro’s and con’s that you experience? Do you think complete oneness with your spouse can be achieved with separate bank accounts??
Lets discuss this! Appreciate the feedback… Rimpology101 THINKING OUT LOUD!! Peace