Crazy in love, or just plain CRAZY!!!!



Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.  According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year.  Less than 20 percent of battered women sought medical treatment following an injury… Why the 20 percent??

Because society have done an excellent job in causing us to accept the LIE that there is  “a thin line between love and hate”…..

Although I like the song, and was even a fan of the Martin Lawrence film with the same title!  I totally disagree that the line between love and hate is “thin”… If we’re dealing with “real love”, then hate is the farthest thing from it… Real love is never abusive, it’s not easy to walk out on… It’s sacrificial, it’s given by choice, it’s unconditional…It’s not weak or thin by any means!  So if there is a “thin line,” in your relationship, then one must ask if it’s really “real love” at all…. Check out some of these statistics:

1. Income is major a factor in abusive relationships – The poorer the household, the higher the rate of domestic violence.  Women in the lowest income category are experiencing more than six times the rate of nonfatal intimate partner violence as compared to women in the highest income category.

2.  When we consider race, we see that African-American women face higher rates of domestic violence than white women, and American-Indian women are victimized at a rate more than double that of women of other races.

Here is a small snippet of a story from a woman who claims her husband loves her, and this was her explanation of how she knows he loves her, check this out:

“We have been married almost 4yrs and I know that he loves me alot.  He cooks for me,  buys me things,  pays alot of attention to me, but then there are times when he yells and screams at me, and hit me for things that happened a long time ago.  Makes me have sex when I don’t want to.  But he always apologizes to me and comforts me after I’m hurting…. We still together and now have a brand new baby at home. He pays everything including my cell phone.  Without him I wont have absolutely nothing, not even money for my son.  He says if I leave him he’ll  take my son…. I know he love me tho, and I love him….”

So I ask again is this “crazy in love, or just plain CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!”

(I know this may be a sensitive subject for some, please let me here from you, I want your feedback,  you could possibly help someone that may read this blog. Please feel free to remain anonymous)    ~rimpology101~


7 thoughts on “Crazy in love, or just plain CRAZY!!!!

  1. In her mind it is love and there is nothing that you or anyone else can say. Once a woman gives up her power and let man controls, the brainwashing has already manifested. Some can get out the relationship while otherwise can not. This is a sad but oh so true.

  2. Lilman, first off great blog site, I’ve read though everyone and I am impressed with your thought process – articulate, and thought provoking. Now to comment on the blog above, I think there is a thin line, if a woman or man is crazy in love they’ve put the blinders on and there is nothing in their mind, and nothing you or I could say that will convince them that their significant other has done or will do great harm to them. Now on the other hand, if you’re plain crazy and love happens to find you…how do you classify that? Crazy in love? I don’t know, now you got me thinkin’ out loud! Lol

    • Frank!! Man I so appreciate you stopping by to drop some knowledge! Your feedback means a great deal to me! You know bro, I question if someone who stays in a relationship like what was referenced in the blog really even understands, or can comprehend what REAL LOVE is. Abuse in any form ain’t love at all! I believe its fear that keep people in relationships that are abusive. Not necessarily fear of the abuser either! But there is a fear of being alone, so whether you’re a good man or not, being alone is not an option, so they take the abuse.. That my friend, is absolutely CRAZY in my opinion.. 🙂 Appreciate you bro..peace

  3. Forgot to leave my name on the comment I posted above! You know a brotha gotta show up and support another brotha for doing something very positive! Proud of you man, keep it coming!

  4. Just plain CRAZY! I imagine it hurts to be beat, punched, kicked, bit,…all of that, so there is NO WAY I’m gonna allow anyone to do me that way. I can’t continue to get in the same bed with u, let alone have sex with you after you’ve just beat me! That’s the quickest way to end the relationship for me.
    Women who stay for whatever reason is baffling to me!…just cant wrap my mind around it…

    • Kellee!! Thanks for the feedback and support of the blog! You know there are a few people that refer to staying in those type of relationships as unconditional “love”! I agree with you Kellee,,,CRAZY!!! Thanks again for your support…

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